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Monday, December 19, 2016

Learning your ABCS- BOUNDARIES

Hello, Everyone it's My birthday today, so what better time to talk about one of the most important things we enjoy in BDSM, BOUNDARIES.
Beyond the world of BDSM we have a lot going on.  Family life, Career aspirations, friends who don't want or need to know what excites us in the bedroom.
Boundaries are important and open discussion helps to keep the right boundaries in place.
All My clients, slaves and submissives benefit from My unwavering stance on boundaries.  I only keep clients, slaves, subs who also respect My boundaries.
These can be physical boundaries, like no marks, no needles, no photos.
These can also be about discretion.
A friend of Mine was outed by the first professional Domina he saw in Ohio. The Domina, who overall I haven't seen too much negative press about, was drunk at a local bar and detailed both Her activities with him and his identity, to men who knew him in the town.  Rumors so juicy are bound to spread, and he even has heard his story now repeated years later as an admonition against such terrible lack of discretion.
Well, now that he has moved to totally new city he doesn't have to worry about it right?
Perhaps I am hopeful in thinking this Domina truly regrets her loose lips sinking ships.
Boundaries go both ways as well. I don't like My personal slaves or anyone else talking in great detail about what it is we do in the dungeon.  What better way to reduce a heavenly, transcendent experience to the most base, rote excursion.  It can also create false expectations, as what I do with one slave I don't do with the other.

Boundaries and open communication help us to have BDSM and Femdom be sustainable in our lives.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Learning your ABC's- Attentiveness

Why is a slave attentive?
Is it to make sure he has pleased his Mistress to the best of his ability?

Or is it because by being attentive, focusing his mind on his Mistress and serving Her desires is such a peaceful state?

Your mind loves to think it is good at multi-tasking, but it's not. Just recently I had a slave doing some of his weekly slave chores.  His mind was somewhere else.
This is a natural mistake, but let's be clear... IT IS A MISTAKE.
Your life very well may be in upheaval, you may have too much work to do this week, and tons of things on your mind. But using your mind in any way besides in service is a waste of time and energy.  When you are slave not only is your body in service, your mind must also be in service.

It may help to realize as you shed your clothing, put on a collar, or otherwise get ready to play, you may let go of all those things and leave them for the person who wears that watch and suit, the collarless person.
It may also help of course, to take the slave, whip or cane him into tears, and then let him go back to his chores.
It may help to express to your Mistress or Owner what sort of training helps you to forget your worries... for some it is bondage, for others it may be pain or humiliation. When you learn what helps you "zone out"  tell your Mistress.  When you have huge worries outside the dungeon, that may also be worthwhile to tell your Mistress.

A 2008 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior used saliva samples from before and after BDSM play to judge stress levels found that both submissives and dominants had lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol that before.  Even during extremely stressful scenes, stress levels were lower afterward.

In other words, just do EXACTLY what I tell you and reap the benefits.

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

New Review

I visited Devlynn Desade for the very first time yesterday afternoon. With fear and excitement I rang the door bell and was greeted by a vision of beauty. This didn’t last too long as within seconds of entering the Desade Academy I was blindfolded and had my arms tied behind my back and was led up the stairs into what I eventually found out was her medical examination room. Once there I was gagged with a ball gag with small holes in it (a bit like one of those practice golf balls) and tied to a post on her suspension frame. After a few minutes of some prodding and nipple torment the blindfold was removed to reveal the beautiful Goddess. Mistress Devlynn then lit a cigarette and proceeded to blow the smoke towards my face. I completely forgot that I was an ex-smoker because all I wanted to do was suck the smoke coming from her lips through the perforations in the gag.  

After a while I found myself tied down to her medical examination table. My head and hands were in stocks and legs tied wide apart and in the air. I was completely at Mistress Devlynn’s mercy. Nipple torture (which I love) was intensified, and my exposed buttocks felt a few hard strokes of her cane. Mistress Devlynn has an amazing assortment of toys, but one that she used on me was what would best be described as a claw with three curved blades as the fingers. This ‘claw’ is perfect in you are into pain and pleasure. Mistress tickled me lightly by rubbing the claw lightly over most of my exposed body, but also inflicted pain on my nipples which were gradually becoming tender. I also had some kind of pumping machine attached to my penis but because my head was in the stocks I couldn’t see exactly what it was. 

After some exquisite torture on the medical examination table I was untied and led into Mistress Devlynn’s dungeon room. I was strapped down to a punishment bench and whipped and caned with a verity of instruments, as well as having my nipples clamped again and having them severely pinched. Finally I was untied from the bench and ordered onto the floor to kiss the Goddess’s boot.

Devlynn Desade is a softly spoken Mistress and really seems to enjoy tormenting and torturing her slaves. During the session She would softly hum to herself and it seemed like an increase in the humming would mean an increase in my torment. The more I suffered seems to also light a sadistic pleasure that I could see in Her beautiful eyes.   

After the session I was offend to use the bathroom to clean up, and then went down stairs to Mistress Devlynn’s Parlour Room for a chat about what I thought of the session and life in general. The whole of the Desade Academy is immaculately clean and very well equipped with all kinds of bondage furniture and instruments of torture. I loved this session and will definitely be back some time in the future.

Monday, October 10, 2016

This Weekend

This weekend Mistress Mara Mayhem of Chicago will be visiting the DeSade Academy for just a few short days.

Those of you who wish to book a double domination session may still have an opportunity.  If you have seen Me previously and have a good record, feel free to apply directly to Me with your session interests and hopeful dates or times.  Email to for consideration.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Visiting Mistress Mara Mayhem

Miss Mara Mayhem from Chicago will be visiting the DeSade Academy in Mid-October to see what Cincinnati has to offer Her.  There will be limited availability, double sessions with Mistress DeSade are a possibility to those who think they can handle it.
Don't let her sweet face and figure fool you... She is real dominant woman, intelligent, well spoken, kinky and quick as a whip.


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Monday, September 19, 2016

DOMCON NOLA 2016 Guest of Honor

I have been named as a Guest of Honor this year


Which will be held in lovely New Orleans.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

High Protocol Goddess Party

This year's High Protocol Goddess Party is slated for the evening of November 26.

This is not only a private party, it is invite ONLY.
I hand select the slaves who will attend this party and they are trained in My protocols and on their best slave behavior through the evening.

Monday, August 22, 2016

In Cincinnati...

Returning from My wonderful travels to visit fetish friends all over.  It's been a great summer and My travels are not over by far... but I will be in Cincinnati and available for sessions for the next couple weeks. If you wish to book with Me, I recommend you read this and take note.  While I love to help Newbies explore Femdom and Fetish fun in My fully equipped dungeon, and I enjoy devouring fresh male souls, I am too busy to be bothered by males who cannot follow basic protocols.  If you have seen Me before and I enjoyed you, that is always a great place to start.

With fellow Fetish Friends and Lifestylers from NYC, Pittsburgh, and Florida

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Mistress Mara Mayhem of Chicago

After the ClubFem party we went to a Gothic Event called Nocturne, where they play a lot of gothic and industrial music I like to dance to.  There I had the pleasure of meeting Mistress Mara Mayhem for a bit.
We had a great time and I hope to session with Her in the future. If you would like to request a double domination scene, and make it worth Her while to visit Cincinnati one day, I recommend you email Her.  She also visits Detroit.  Her interests include full toilet scenes, heavy humiliation, and She is a stunning, quick as a whip, truly dominant Female!

Monday, August 8, 2016

Mistress Simone of Chicago

Popped up to Chicago for a quick visit and was privileged to attend the ClubFem Chicago party hosted by one of the best Medical and Heavy Bondage Mistresses in the country, Mistress Simone.
Her dungeon was immaculate and inspiring.  A warm corporal room with wood throne and stretching rack, a sissy room with more clothes, heels, and fun toys than you could shake a sissy clit at, lots of real dark dungeon areas, and the wonderfully kinky medical play room.  Mistress Simone is a true lifestyle professional, with years of experience and medical training. She is also a gothic queen, which of course to Me is absolutely divine. Loved being able to sit and chat with slaves at our feet and other slaves getting used by their Mistresses all around us.


Friday, July 29, 2016

Regarding Appointments

When a Domina has been offering Her time to submissives and developed a reputation that precedes Her... you can bet all of Her email boxes are filled with requests for Her time.
How can you stand out among the rest?  This is a primer for anyone looking to find themselves at the feet of a busy and in-demand Mistress.

  1. Be clear and brief.  State your name, city, experience, interests, length of session you seek, dates possible for a session.  If you can't even request a date or time, I often assume you are just a wanker from Nigeria enjoying his computer.
  2. Do not request any illegal services or anything inappropriate. You are simply requesting to be dominated by Me, the way I please, within what you can offer, within your limits, discretion and safety.  I don't offer any services, of any kind.  You are contacting Me for a training opportunity. You can offer whatever you would be willing to try, but in the end your service and submission will define you.
  3. Vet yourself- If I have your real name, clear employment, linked in or facebook profile, references from a respected Mistress, etc... I am way more apt to book with you and take you seriously.  My face and My reputation are right here in front of you.  If you are not able to make Me feel safe seeing you, I walk away.  I NEVER violate this trust for any reason... one of the reasons I have a stellar reputation.  If you can't trust Me, I doubt you can trust Me tied up in My dungeon either, so I'm not interested.
  4. Send a deposit or gift- If I receive a gift from a submissive I always remember. When they email Me I take notice and write them back.  A physical representation of your devotion goes a long way with Me.
  5. Arrange a Niteflirt phone call if you are afraid or have cold feet.  I am available to talk on Monday and Tuesday evenings with notice.  We can discuss your fetishes or My training practices.  I will not send endless emails for you... I have written this blog for over 5 years now and you will find a wealth of information about serving Me right here.
  6. If you want to be seen in a more "personal" light, offer to make My life better. Offer to take Me out to get My nails done, take Me for a coffee and shopping trip, offer to bring Me coffee between these hours and these hours. 

I am actually a FemDom lifestyler.  I enjoy submissive men serving Me and it feeds the Inner Goddess that you want to enjoy.  I am inspired by submission.  Though you may not be well versed with women like Me, luckily I always train men to be better at serving Me and to learn My non-traditional ways.  Pay attention to My instruction and you may find yourself greatly rewarded.

Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Ways to Be of Service

  • Pick up coffee or a healthy meal for Mistress 
  • Do a grocery run for Mistress
  • Take care of Dry cleaning for Mistress
  • Pay for Mistress manicure and pedicure, drive Her to the spa, bringing a nice chai or coffee as well.
  • Take Mistress shopping for makeup (learning experience for crossdressers or sissies)
  • Take Mistress lingerie shopping (learning experience for crossdressers or sissies)
  • Take Mistress shoe shopping 
  • If experienced and vetted slave, offer to clean dungeon
  • OFFER your schedule and times available for use
  • OFFER list of ways you can be of use
  • Cultivate an attitude of attentive silence. Unobtrusive but there when needed.
  • Set up a social media account to help Mistress DeSade- twitter, tumblr, fetlife, etc.
  • If you are a cannabis enthusiast, take Mistress paraphernalia shopping, or grow or find quality Sativas.
  • Bring good Champagnes, orange juice for Mimosas with other Ladies.
  • Buy toys for the dungeon or other needed supplies
  • Easy things to pick up for the dungeon- Paper towels, toilet paper, bottled waters, white hand or bath towels.
Service is extremely useful when cultivating a Goddess Mode.  Goddess Mode is exactly where you want your Mistress to be, because that is where all the magic happens.  Goddess Mode allows your Mistress's mind to wander to wonderful places while you take care of the little things.  

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Tribute to an awesome Goddess Devlynn De Sade

I have the good fortunate to have been serving Goddess Devlynn De Sade for a couple of years. Each time that I arrive for a training session, I am over whelmed with anticipation. From the time waiting at the door for the most beautiful Goddess to open the door and allow me to enter, to the time I am allowed to sit at Her feet for a pre-training discussion, I am at awe that I am allowed to serve such a beautiful, sexy and extremely intelligent Goddess.

My heart rate accelerates with total anticipation during the pre-training discussion as She determines my conditions such as health, experiences and anticipated limits. Quickly I am under Her total control and zoned out anxiously waiting for the opportunity to completely serve, please and worship Her during training.

Upon que, She instructs me to go the slave rooms to prepare for her. Prior to coming to her studio, I have taken great care to be very clean, well shaved overall and well hydrated. I know that the beginning of the training session, I will be completely inspected and must please Goddess.

When Goddess comes to the slave dungeon, She has changed into one of Her very sexy Goddess training outfits and I am spell bound by her over all beauty. She is always so breath taking that my only words to describe Her beauty is WOW and OMG!!! I again realize, how fortunate I am to be allowed to serve and please the most awesome Goddess.
I am spell bound and ready to completely submit to Goddess. Her trainings take me to new heights and areas that once were only fantasies.  Upon qualifying as one of her highly and well trained slaves, She sometimes uses me as a demo slave as She teaches others a variety of skills on how to use a submissive male slave. My trust and respect for Goddess allows me to feel very comfortable being displayed and used in front of others.

By the time my training session ends, I am always thinking about when I will return to Goddess and seek additional training. I leave thinking WOW and OMG and that I need to be under Goddess control again and soon...

For any submissive who has not experienced Goddess Devlynn De Sade’s training, I must say it is an experience that will make you say WOW and OMG!

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

After Care and Sub Drop

When we play with BDSM there is a noticeable high.  On the night when My well trained slaves were used for the Goddess party, these slaves were high as could be on the endorphins and intensity of the situation.  This is one of the many reasons slaves must be well trained to attend, because like any drug some people get scared teetering at the heights.  I would not push a novice slave into this situation without proper training these days.
After the high, is the comedown.  It's important to remember this exists and address it.  After a session the submissive may feel euphoric, calm, relaxed, floating on air.
Some more time passes, and the presence of the Domme is gone, and the sub may have:

  • anxiety
  • second thoughts about the play
  • sadness 
  • depression
  • irrational thoughts
  • spaciness
  • insomnia
  • appetite changes
It's important to remember during this time the unique chemistry of your brain and the strength of BDSM play.  Realize that most of the thoughts and emotions are tied to a drop in brain chemicals.
So how can you get back to normal and make the best of your BDSM session with this in mind?
  1. Make sure you replenish physically after the session. Nourishing foods, vitamins, carbs, water.
  2. Make sure you are warm - body temperature can drop and this affects your mood.
  3. Masturbate if you are allowed- this will allow brain chemicals to even out.
  4. Shower, bathe or take care of any wounds with Arnica or Lavender.
  5. Take photos of yourself to enjoy remembering your submission- this helps the high last longer and even out.
  6. Write to your Domme about your feelings and processing- sharing can help your future and your present processing.
I hope this helps a little and PLEASE do not let sub-drop affect anything in your life. Making big decisions, backlash against your fetish, doing anything drastic in this state can cause you regret.

Friday, May 13, 2016

Slave Training- Responsiveness

If you are trying to satisfy or please a Mistress or Goddess it is good to work on your response.
When I start training my slaves I often train with basic positions, protocols and such.  Deeper training involves reactions and response.
If you are playing with a new Mistress who does not know you or your triggers, your response could be the difference between 5 minutes of nipple torture you love or 5 minutes of single tail you abhor, or the other way around.
I don't like a lot of verbal response in My dungeon. I don't need a scrolling male voice playing out a porno fantasy dream.  I would rather he concentrate and become immersed in what I am doing.
 I like to hear gratitude from My slaves, like,
"Thank you Goddess" (verbal option)
"muffled screams" (nonverbal option)
"panting and crying"

Sometimes I will check in and ask if they can take more if they are in some stages.  Just to make sure I am not destroying them.  
Sometimes if a slave is very young, shy or inexperienced I will train them on proper response.  In this way they will be trained to communicate with any Mistress and their experience will be enhanced.
Communication is important.
Some Mistresses are ok with you saying things like, "I don't like pain" in the middle of a session. I'm not. I see this as topping from the bottom.  You should have discussed that with Me clearly earlier before you allowed Me to get into My top mode.  By trying to direct My scene with you in the middle of it you are doing yourself a great disservice.  You cannot let go while directing and having control. For over 6 years now men have been trusting Me as professional to allow them to give up control. 
NOW a way you can communicate without giving the topping from the bottom:
"Mistress may I please make a request?"
"Yes you may speak." 
"My nipples are very sensitive and cannot take a lot of pain.  I forgot to tell you this."

Monday, March 21, 2016

High Protocol Goddess Party Scheduled for Late April

Some of you may already know about My high protocol Goddess Parties. We will be having another in late April.  This is a private invite only party that takes place in My dungeon. Well trained slaves are the only ones allowed.  We usually have need for a detail oriented sissy maid, Domo submissive/butler, body worship/massage slaves, and a few painsluts or general bottoms for teaching whatever the Ladies would like to learn.
The slaves are listed in our slave catalog along with their interests and limits.  Limits are respected and discretion is paramount to this endeavor.
Slaves for this event must be properly trained prior to the event for their role. This is not something I take lightly.  Everything about this evening is carefully orchestrated for the pleasure of the attending Goddesses.
If you would like to be a part of this April's party, apply now.  Only 8 males will be allowed to attend, no exceptions as we prefer a higher female to male ratio.

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Hung upside down and edged mercilessly with My Venus 2000. 
By now he will beg even for a ruined orgasm, but it is too fun to watch him suffer. 
Now let's put him back in chastity and look forward to some good behavior.

Monday, February 29, 2016

Slave encased, now he can breathe only what I choose to give him, through his tiny little rubber breathing tube...

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Returning to Cincinnati

Those who wish to spend some time at My feet, or in training in the DeSade Academy, should fill out My application to serve.  Applications sent WITH a deposit are the only ones I can expedite.
PRIOR submissives may politely email requesting times and dates, clearly requesting the amount of time you wish to serve, along with any new goals you may have for serving Me.
Couples training and exploration is also possible.
Sessions may last anywhere from one hour, three hours, to overnight.
Most sessions are booked with 2-3 day notice. Many of My submissives also book up to one month in advance.  Same day appointments are possible, but rare, usually reserved to people I know, and deposits of course help expedite the process.
My dungeon is near downtown, discreet, and fully equipped.  I am a safe, sane, sober, consensual BDSM player.
I offer a true power exchange with the luxurious sensuality of Femdom, and playful fetish exploration.  It is a well known fact that there is something about My countenance and personality that inspires submission.  I start with My natural talents and abilities and use all manner of BDSM modalities to deepen that submission...

Monday, February 8, 2016

Reviews from NYC

Dear Mistress Devlynn:

Please accept my sincere appreciation for an awesome overnight session!
You played with such devious creativity and intensity, all while clearly having fun 
by pushing out my limits so intuitively. Your powerful personality, appearance,
and fashion taste, is totally intoxicating...

Sunday, February 7, 2016

In rubber on a rainy night in Times Square...

Back in Cincinnati now.  More photos soon, make sure you follow My twitter!

Monday, January 25, 2016

Appointments Available in Cincinnati til February 3rd, when I am heading off to NYC!
Apply to serve ------------>

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Serving Correctly

This month it seems there were a number of boys who made a New Year's Resolution to deepen their service to Me.  However it's important you do this in the right way.  If you think you are serving Me by shooting Me emails telling Me how hot I am,  you are sadly mistaken.
In reality, you are simply adding to mountain of emails from people all over the world saying the same thing, and making Me avoid opening My email box for as long as possible to avoid such foolishness. Don't be a parasite, be a pleasure! If you would like Me to take you seriously or even notice, these are the ways to actually be of service to Me:

  • Call Me on Niteflirt to discuss your fantasies, DON'T email them to Me.  
  • Pay for My photosets on Niteflirt or My videos.  If you like what I do, support it to continue its existence.
  • If you enjoy My photos or videos or writing, share them, giving Me credit of course.
  • Write a review of your time with Me, and submit to Max fisch or other sites.
  • Set up a fan account (tumblr, facebook, twitter) for Me where you can deposit your fantasies about Me, for the world to enjoy.  Spread the elegant Femdom message all over the land!!!
  • Contribute to My lifestyle or My dungeon via My amazon wishlist.  These toys, latex, and lingerie don't just appear out of thin air.
  • If you can't buy online because of discretion, ask Me what I would like you to buy locally.  
  • Want to see another Mistress visit Cincinnati?  Let Me know, I have lot of friends who would love to visit who have various fetishes. If they have guaranteed sessions, they will come.
  • If you like to email Me constantly and feel like you are My slave, you should arrange with Me a monthly tribute so I have time to spend on you.
  • Do whatever you can, whenever you can to make Me happy and not be a nuisance.
In this way, you can make sure I enjoy your existence instead of abhor it, and you can make it more sustainable for Cincinnati to have a top notch resident dominatrix and dungeon.

Sent time wasting emails detailing your fantasies with no payment or gift to Me whatsoever
No called or No showed or Cancelled Last Minute
Asked to See Me but never followed through
Make an APOLOGY and AMENDS NOW. I am well aware you want to be back in My good graces enjoying My Femdom Lifestyle.  

Monday, January 11, 2016

January 15-18 Limited availability.

Friday, January 8, 2016


A very wonderful and professional Domina in Cincinnati, a devious and Dominant friend of Mine, GODDESS GABRIELLE will be hosting a private class on CBT on February 6.

Couples or singles are definitely allowed to attend this class. It will focus on safe and sane, sometimes sensual methods of cock and ball torture.  There will of course be live demonstrations and help with any questions.
Goddess Gabrielle is highly skilled and deliciously sadistic at times.  I highly recommend anyone interested check out this class!  SAFE CBT that is fun and doesn't hurt anything later on.
Check out the PEER group of Cincinnati for this class and many others.

Monday, January 4, 2016

Appointments available in Cincinnati Now.


PREVIOUS Applicants and submissives go to the front of the line.
Deposit if you wish to be expedited in any way, I am very busy.