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Monday, December 19, 2016

Learning your ABCS- BOUNDARIES

Hello, Everyone it's My birthday today, so what better time to talk about one of the most important things we enjoy in BDSM, BOUNDARIES.
Beyond the world of BDSM we have a lot going on.  Family life, Career aspirations, friends who don't want or need to know what excites us in the bedroom.
Boundaries are important and open discussion helps to keep the right boundaries in place.
All My clients, slaves and submissives benefit from My unwavering stance on boundaries.  I only keep clients, slaves, subs who also respect My boundaries.
These can be physical boundaries, like no marks, no needles, no photos.
These can also be about discretion.
A friend of Mine was outed by the first professional Domina he saw in Ohio. The Domina, who overall I haven't seen too much negative press about, was drunk at a local bar and detailed both Her activities with him and his identity, to men who knew him in the town.  Rumors so juicy are bound to spread, and he even has heard his story now repeated years later as an admonition against such terrible lack of discretion.
Well, now that he has moved to totally new city he doesn't have to worry about it right?
Perhaps I am hopeful in thinking this Domina truly regrets her loose lips sinking ships.
Boundaries go both ways as well. I don't like My personal slaves or anyone else talking in great detail about what it is we do in the dungeon.  What better way to reduce a heavenly, transcendent experience to the most base, rote excursion.  It can also create false expectations, as what I do with one slave I don't do with the other.

Boundaries and open communication help us to have BDSM and Femdom be sustainable in our lives.