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Monday, May 15, 2017

Safety in BDSM and Femdom

For those new to Femdom, from one is not so new to Femdom, the possibilities of injury and other problems should always be considered. While fantasies can be enticing, it is the place of the professional practitioner of such fantasies to make sure the submissive is safe at all times, even while he may enjoy the fright of danger.


Nerve Injuries- 

Rope bondage and even saran bondage can cause nerve damage.  Careful application, and communication between the submissive and the dominant can help prevent the dreaded "wrist drop" which can last anywhere from a few days to a month.  When nerves are damaged, they heal on their own time schedule, and there is nothing that can be done to speed up this process. If you feel any tingling during bondage, or if you know you have any existing nerve damage, as this can be compounded, let your Domina know!


Urethral Sounding- 

Urethral sounding is super fun and sensual but should be done by a trained professional and with sterile equipment.  In My dungeon I use silicon or steel sounds which are autoclave sterilized, just as at the Doctor's office.  I was warned My first year of Domination of the perils of sounding, and was trained by a Nurse and Dominatrix to do it safely.  You do NOT want to risk any bacterial infection or injury to your urethra.  So, with Sounding... Sterility, safety, and training... and silicon just to be sure!

Passing Out-


Passing out is an interesting phenomena, because it happens AFTER the person starts to calm down from a fright.  I have had several people pass out in My dungeon over the years.  A few occasions were like this:                                                                      

  • A submissive was worshipping My feet and legs and was overwhelmed by the fantasy. We laid him down and he had juice and a cool towel until he felt better, After a little while, we were actually able to continue the session.
  • A submissive was tied in ropes to the cross, when I did fireplay he passed out from fright. I held him, and carefully cut him out of the ropes until he was able to sit on the floor, once again with a sugary drink, cool towel and some time.
  • A submissive asked Me for CBT at a party. I was in leathers and thigh boots, and tied him to the cross at the party. Once I started lightly caressing his skin, just to make the connections to play further, he passed out, from the whole excitement of the scene.  He also vomited when he passed out, this happens, along with other possible bodily fluid emissions.  Other party goers immediately stepped in to help Me clean up and safely pull him down, and ... 

YOU GUESSED IT....The prescription for a pass-out is kindness, warmth, forgiveness, (because they feel very flustered and often disappointed in themselves) and sugary water, and cold towel.

Sub Drop-

AFTER a scene the endorphins go back down. Many subs are used to this and know what's going on. Basically, you just did a coke binge with Me and now you need to replenish all your systems, and let yourself bask in the afterglow.  Symptoms are similar, may include but aren't limited to: sadness, less energy, feelings of shame or worthlessness, a impulse to convert to Christianity and give up on BDSM.  I urge you to not act on such feelings, while in the moment, as you will be apologizing to Me and asking for another session in a year, but now you will feel like an ass for it.

Instead, EAT well, nourish yourself, accept yourself, enjoy other brain soothing things like music, films, exercise, pamper your body, etc.  Feel free to email Me with any concerns or questions about your service or session.

Drug Tests- 

This one I recently thought about, but have little experience regarding.  From now on, regarding golden showers, I wouldn't recommend ingesting if you are drug tested, unless you know your Mistress is Drug Free.  I smoke regularly and love allowing submissives to enjoy My toilet training regimen, but I would hate for anyone to fail a drug test for the pleasure.  If you are drug tested and love golden showers, maybe you should ask your Mistress about Her habits just to be sure you will remain drug free even after your fantasies are realized!


TAKE CARE SUBMISSIVES!
 And HAVE FUN TOO!