When people come to see Me they often express interest in My high protocol evenings and ask how to get involved. We usually have very few males in attendance as we prefer a female to male ratio skewed toward females. If you have ever been to fetish or femdom party surrounded by creepy dudes who can't even talk to people you may understand why we do this. High Protocol also limits that phenomena, as all males entering the party are trained regarding what's expected of them and how to act. This creates a smooth atmosphere for both the Ladies and the slaves.
Training on My basic positions for slaves is a great start and you can find these by just googling "Devlynn DeSade slave positions" as I have made them readily available to anyone with the foresight to practice and make a good impression.
My parties are very different than others you will visit and I strongly believe what you put into something you get out. If you invest very little thought to your attire, practice or care to your actions and demeanor, I can imagine you will get very little out of Femdom in general.
The Americanization and commodification of Femdom can only reach so far. Just like at the gym, if you rarely show up, rarely push yourself, you will rarely see the results you want. I have many slaves that have come far, are shining examples and others over the years who have flaked, tried to flip the script, and been disappointed in themselves.
You can lead a horse to water with a unicorn outfit on, but you can't force him to drink from the magical life renewing stream of subspace.