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Friday, April 12, 2019

Honesty and Integrity in D/s

How does honesty serve the submissive?
When negotiations begin, an eye to honesty can show the Dominant :

  1. you are serious
  2. you can be trusted
  3. you are not going to be any hassle or stress to Her
  4. you will be worthy of Her honesty and time
  5. you are looking out for everyone's safety 
  6. you are a sane individual
Over the years of domination experience, one can expect a submissive to want to guard his own privacy.  For instance, he may wish to safeguard at all costs his family, occupation, or other solid, sacred foundations in his life.  This is understandable.  Of course in My stable these solid foundations are considered off limits, which is why I am usually averse to blackmail scenarios that play on the edges of these topics.  In a power exchange where I have purposely decided I have no interest in playing, it's distasteful to Me.  You could say, if you like, that the firm foundations of physical safety, family, a home, an occupation are off limits to Me in My practice.  I can have no power over what other people choose to play with, but I choose to associate with other Dommes and s types who align with the same values.  To the extent in My life that other dommes or s types have crossed that boundary, with Me or even with their own submissives, I have usually cut them off and exiled them.  Sometimes I offered the possibility of amends, sometimes I have not. Risk aware consensual kink can have a lot of grey areas but it is surely up to any individual in which they wish to engage.
As Dominants honesty and integrity becomes more important when an s type is strung up to the ceiling with electrical devices and stainless steel hooks.  We even are able to play with the edges with fear as the submissive knows from experience that he is safe with Me. Over the many years I have been playing 99% of My subjects have offered Me the same care, discretion, and respect.  Many who crossed My boundaries were simply excited, in their head space, and didn't mean to cause any offense.  However, if I get excited as a dominant I am not going to cross a hard limit, which is perhaps why I am the professional in the scene.  
Many women I have trained in dominance have expressed this fear- that if they do let go to their dominant, primal, sadistic urges they will cross a line or not know when to stop.  It is helpful to have expressive and forgiving submissives in that case.  
Many submissives I have seen have had the misfortune of seeing a professional Dominant who was not in their eyes professional.  At best this dishonesty leads to disappointment and at worst it leads to injury or lack of discretion- which is its own injury to be sure.  
As Dominance is a very controlling aspect, and dialing up My own dominance has led to a controlling nature in Myself I often have to check My own judgmental nature to other's D/s practices. I have to know that My version of D/s is the best for Me but not necessarily another Domme and her sub. I am a fairly conservative Domina, I am not a swinger, and many explorations of Swinger's clubs and parties have shown Me exactly who I am.   I hold a personal view regarding morality that was guided by My teenage explorations of Carl Gustav Jung, something like, "If you move yourself to edges of morality you will find your own" which is strikingly similar to a Hunter S Thompson quote.
Even this guiding compass is one I would not advocate to most, but for Me it is has offered a wonderful, rich tapestry, and made all the difference.

We have to be honest with ourselves.

Monday, April 8, 2019

I have just spent an amazing afternoon with Mistress Devlynn. During our session she was a southern slave owner who'd had some jewelry stolen. The jewelry had been planted on me by another slave and I honestly didn't know how it got there. Of course Mistress Devlynn didn't believe me, or care about that, and was glad at being presented with the opportunity to torture a confession out of the me and met out some punishment for it. 

Rules at the plantation are simple. If a slave is accused of even the most trivial of crimes he will be severely punished. Even if he says he is innocent he is tortured until he confesses and is punished anyway. 

Mistress Devlynn has a room in the attic of the plantation mansion that she has had fitted out as a torture chamber. She loves nothing more than to spend time there torturing, abusing and punishing her slaves. I was put in chains and lead to the St Andrews where my hands were tied behind my back making escape impossible.

To get me to confess Mistress Devlynn tortured my nipples with clamps, burns, whips, electric shocks and mistresses metal claw until I couldn’t take anymore and I eventually confessed to taking the jewelry.

Fore my crime Mistress Devlynn decided to punish me with a beating from a flogger, birch, crop and cane. I was untied fro the cross and made to position myself on the floor, face down and ass up, and beaten until I was squirming and begging for mercy. I was told that the only way my torment would stop was if I... (omitted for privacy)
Mistress Devlynn is an amazingly Beautiful lady who truly enjoys what she does. This was my third session with her. If you want her to be severe she will be, and you can almost feel the pleasure she gets from unleashing her sadistic side. Having said that, she is very understanding of limits and not marking people who can't have marks showing for days or weeks. When setting up the session I asked for marks to be gone in 2 to 3 days. It's now the morning after our session and all marks are already gone, however my nipples are still sore and tender as a reminder of yesterday's fun.

Mistress Devlynn has always given me a safe word. I now feel enough trust in Mistress Devlynn to let her torture me without one. At the end of our session we sat down for a chat about the session, general BDSM thoughts and feelings and even restaurant recommendations. During our conversation we discussed my next visit and my desire to step up to eliminating the safe word, For my next visit Mistress Devlynn is going to tie me up with rope and chains so I'm completely immobile and torture my nipples for her sadistic pleasure, not until I beg for mercy, but until her sadistic desires are satisfied. I'm excited for the next visit!